White people destroyed 3/4s of the world for spices and have the nerve not to season their food.
Earlier today, I viewed a post listing a male’s criteria for a good woman, basically what men want in a woman. The criteria was the following: Pretty, Good Personality, Career and Own Money, Ability to Cook/Clean, Good Sex, and Lady in Public.
I do believe many men choose what women to commit based on this list or one very similar to it, but I take issue with it. Taking into account all men are different, the idea of a good woman is not exclusive to women meeting those criteria. I think the classification of a good woman by a man should be based on the specific man’s wants and needs. Wants, dreams, needs (other than basic natural needs, i.e. food, water), goals, and philosophy differ person to person and specific to the person being asked. The classification of a good woman is merely based on opinion and preference, just the same as a good man. One man may consider a submissive woman the ideal woman; where as another may consider an independent woman the ideal woman. These are preferences and needs based on the character, philosophy (beliefs in gender roles, priorities), person responsibility, and a multitude of other factors that have been socialized into each man.
The most influential among them, in my opinion, is personal responsibility and gender role beliefs. The personal responsibility factor created men classified as dead beat, low life, lazy, and womanizing (use of women) men. In contrast, it created the idea of the successful, driven, goal oriented, and self-dependent (not living with mother) men. Personal responsibility affects the way a man lives and what he wants from women to different degrees, and the past two examples are at the extremes. The role gender role beliefs play in criteria is its determination of how much importance the dependency of a woman to a man is. One man may want a woman who is very dependent and falls into the traditional role of women who are dependent on men (i.e. womanizer or provider of all). Another may be attracted to the very independent or ask for nothing woman. Once again, these are at the extremes, and its affect differs on a case by case basis.
In my opinion, these factors derived from a universal stereotype of what is believed to be what men want from a woman and put into this criteria for a good woman. I believe we should not have a universal or stereotypical criteria. A criteria that could be ingrained in men’s (especially young male’s) mind by their friends, parents, family, or society. Men should shape their own criteria for a good woman, or renamed the ideal woman, around their own character and personality.
You’re probably saying people already do, but some don’t. Some wait to find out if their partner fits a criteria towards the end of the first stage in the relationship. Some try to get others to form to their criteria, if possible. In the end, many relationships fail, because the relationship doesn’t fit. The criteria creates a balance between his ideal woman and what she really is. Relationships and the interaction within them goes deeper than just meeting a criteria. Still having a criteria makes moving further in one, especially later when the actual person (woman) began manifesting; deciding how much the relationship has conflict. Life will be easier if surrounded by the “ideal person” or people who fit into your criteria (fit for own personality). Never let someone tell you whats good for you or what your criteria should be; only you really know.
In part 2 of the Good Woman Criteria series, I will give you my opinion, how I think other men should react to each, preference, and experience of each criteria.
Tonight, I’ll have a series of post about a list or criteria of what a man wants in a good woman. It will be in several parts, and will be released as completed.
Everything in them was not supported with empirical research or data on relationship preference. All parts are based on my personal opinion or opinion of the creator of the original Instagram post. Discussion will be invited, and is encouraged.
I hope you enjoy it.